Weekends, I look forward to….

Every day comes with a different feeling – Monday with blues, Tuesday with Ohhhs, Wednesday with middles, Thursday with waits and Friday with Finally :-)………… Yes, finally its Friday and weekend starts…After a tired and stressful week, Friday presents an incredible feeling of relaxation.

Here is a visual presentation of how my weekends are…remember, I am not LUCKY (because I am married, unfortunately happily), I am a mother (of one only, hoooh), I have limited friends (as I am not a “group”person), I love naps (because I am sleep deprived), and books and coffee are my first non-living love :-)….

 

A relaxed lonely weekend morning when I will not have to run around and can read my favorite book with coffee.

Little afternoon nap that energizes me for those best evenings of weekend.

Being a kid again with kids is something, my weekends are filled off.

Being in kitchen with hubby….yes, we cook together while gossiping, laughing, chopping, discussing and drinking coffee (ohh, too much coffee? Never mind, its weekend).

Friday night is a family Maggie and Movie night, we have been celebrating since long…wearing Pajama, laying down on couch, eating Maggie and watching Movie is an incomparable fun.

Meeting friends and chit-chatting on every possible subject is one of the best relaxation time for me.

Saturday night is all about a long drive on lonely roads at mid-night, while romantic numbers are played in background and kiddo is happily sleeping in back seat.

Cleaning is the last, most ignored but “have to” task for the weekend and people at home feels safe outside home, while I am on cleaning mission 🙂

Dinner date with family is a “must” follow rule and it’s the best time of weekend.

And after all fun, saddening Sunday evening, which reminds to get back to the routine again 🙁

So, that’s how Friday feelings are….. How about you? How do you spend weekends?

 

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You are married when …(female part)

  1. You have someone always available to pay your bills (no matter he never wants to spend single dime on you, he will have to)
  2. You have someone who will always walk behind you, carrying your shopping bags (no matter he wants to kick you, he will have to walk silently)
  3. You have someone who will respect your mother as much as you (no matter if just acts so, he will have to act)
  4. You have someone who will eat the burned part of the recipe and still will wow you for the efforts (no matter he would curse you silently, he will have to smile)
  5. You have someone whom you can always blame even if your sandal heal broken (no matter he would want to run away, he will have to say sorry)

The list is long and probably longest in human history :-).

So, get married girls and enjoy the married state. And those married women out – if you are not enjoying even one of the points above, please work on it. It’s our birth right.

P.S. You are married when … (male part)………….Do I need to write it? 🙂

I am disturbed……being a female in India

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Yes, I am really disturbed. I do not want to read or listen about it anymore. I just want to run away to a foreign land. For the whole weekend, my heart was sinking and felt gloomy. I do not know why India is becoming so much rape known country?

I know it’s been old news now or might be I am late to write about. So many blogs / articles / news have been published about the recent gang-rape in Mumbai. But today, I could not help but write about my feelings as female.

Neither I want to go into details about that gang-rape nor I want to describe why it happens and psychology behind it. I want to do something else here, via this community – social community, which has power.

First of all, I would like to appreciate the bravery of the female who really came out as hero and her family to stand by her during this critical phase of life.

Also, I would like to take an opportunity to generate awareness in females for few points –

  1. You are a human first. Respect yourself. The person who does not respect herself can not seek respect from anyone else.
  2. Be brave. We are living in a country where gender biasness is still present and I really feel sorry for that. Don’t consider yourself inferior or less powerful when it comes to yourself.
  3. Be alert. We are not living in old era where the men will earn and we will take care of home. We have to go out and we have to face people. Good and bad both people. Be alert when your mind receives suspicious signals.
  4. Keep your mobile battery always charged. Generally we do not take care much about mobile battery. Its ok, if its low. I will be able to make one or two calls, fine. No, its not fine. You never know the situation where your mobile will be the life saver for you so please please please always have your mobile battery fully charged before going out.
  5. Believe but do not trust. Yes, life is like that. Most of the time due to circumstances and personal situation, you have to believe to people. That’s fine. But don’t have blind trust for someone, who might have wrong purpose.
  6. Be prepared. Its not that it will happen to you too. But its always better to be prepared is always better than regretting. Just take out 10 minutes and think what will you do if you have to face a kind of bad situation and how will you prepare yourself.
  7. Do not avoid. Do not encourage  bad comments for yourself or for any other female around you.  Do not neglect them. It’s we, females only, who will have to educate this society about our identity and power.
  8. Be smart. Develop your mental skills and be smart enough to understand person / people’s intentions and social situations.
  9. Speak out. The gang rape case or any rape case, we read about is the 20% of total. As a female, we feel ashamed, scared and invaluable to speak about this issue. Even I know so many married women who are being raped by their respective husbands (yes, sexual relationship against anyone’s wish is called rape, no matter if the female is your wife). Why do not we speak? Why do not we try to make situation better? We have to speak and we have to make ourselves clear about this.
  10. Don’t feel victim. Indian society has been seeing a raped woman as negligible and sympathetic. Its not about sympathy, its about support. Please do not feel scared or victimised about whatever happened to you. It was not your fault and there is nothing about hiding ourselves or committing suicide.

I am feeling slightly better now (after jotting down those points) but not OK.

As we all know, as a female, we have power to change everything. Lets be a powerful human being and lets avoid gender biasing. If you have son, please educate him about how to respect a woman, no matter whether she is a mother/daughter/sister/colleague/teacher/pedestrian. Lets create a better society where females have not to worry about what they should wear or at what time they should not go out or the career to be taken up.

We are human first and we have power to create the whole society. Lets use that power in a positive way.

(Please note that this post is not anti-males. Its only about considering female as human).

Thanks for reading, dear readers.