Daily Prompt: Take Care
When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone? What does it take for you to ask for help?
Taken care by loved ones, especially while not feeling well, is the most desired way to cop-up, I think. Caring and helping are totally different. Anyone can help you but everyone cannot take care of you. So if feeling unwell, go to the first circle of relation, which includes the most important persons of your life or may be the people you love the most. I am fortunate to have that first circle full and I like to go to them and ask them to take care of me when I am unwell.
This was not myself before two years. I hated to ask for help. It was the most challengeable task for me, if I had to ask someone for help. Being a Virgo, I have been very shy, reserved but determined. Also, my growth never taught me to take help from anyone, even if I am not feeling well. I used to get mad while doing everything on my own. I used to stress up myself.
But everything changed.
Yes, you have to change and so did I.
While being pregnant with my son and working for full time and taking care of house and socializing, I found myself exhausted. I was shouting, crying and awoke for most of the time. This was not right, I thought many times. But again I did not want any help because I thought I am able to take care of everything. I was converting dream phase (of course, pregnancy is the dream phase of every woman on this earth) of my life to worst phase of my life. And one day, I was reading some tips for pregnancy and it said something wonderful –
“Don’t think twice before asking help. Its ok to ask and take help. You can always return back the help in future. But right now, you need it so take it, whenever its offered”.
I was moved. Yes, that was correct. Why couldn’t I understood that simple things for so many years of my life? And I took it up. I opened up myself and asked for help whenever I needed it. I asked neighbors to buy grocery for me while their visit to shot. I asked my parents to accompany me for sometime as I was feeling lonely. I asked hubby to look after some of the household chores so that I could have some rest. I asked colleagues to drop me at home as I was not allowed to drive. Every time, I felt like I need help I raised that board “Help Wanted”.
And believe me, it created wonders. It helped me a lot in enjoying my dream phase. But rather than that, I started understanding the need of people when they asked for help. I could understood that taking help is perfectly fine because that’s the way you can connect with people. And most of the time, you can return back that help in one or the other way. Also, asking for help gave me an opportunity to take an initiative while talking with strangers and it helped me a lot while growing professionally and personally.
And so… now a days, it does not take me anything while asking for help. I just look around and can ask anyone to help by briefing them with the situation. And yes, I have never been denied.
After all, we live on this earth, the only planet where human beings exist. How one can deny the other to help? It just takes a moment to ask and you are connected. So surely ask for help, when you feel unwell because its an indirect medication ( a mental medication) to recover fast.
But with that, I would like to convey that being helped should teach you something most important. Yes, you too need to help others. Do not neglect people in need. Try to help them and try to show right direction.
I am thinking of the world, where everyone will raise his hand to help the other. We all will be connected and how wonderful it will be :-).